It's no secret that gifting is a popular way to show someone you care. But is it really a form of love language? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, the author of "The Five Love Languages," it can be and it’s also the third most common way that people express love for one another. Let’s dive deeper into what it means to have gifting as your love language.
What Does It Mean to Have Gifting As a Love Language?
Having gifting as a love language means valuing acts of kindness and generosity. It means you feel loved when your partner gives you physical items. Similarly, it’s how you express your love for someone. But it’s not about the price tag attached to the gift. At its core, giving gifts is not about the physical object itself but about creating a sense of joy and connection with others.
Whether it's buying a small token or a gift basket for special occasions, showing that you care through giving is a powerful way to express your feelings. And because every gift expresses unique gratitude and appreciation, having gifting as a love language allows you to connect on a deeper level with friends, family, and partners alike. From small tokens of affection to big gestures of support, having gifting as a language of love allows you to express your emotions in an authentic and meaningful way.
Signs That Your Love Language Is Gifting
One of the key indicators that your primary love language is gifting is your desire to give thoughtful, practical gifts to others. Whether it's a little token of appreciation or a birthday gift basket to mark a celebratory occasion, you enjoy showing your loved ones how much they mean to you by giving them meaningful gifts that are both appreciated and well-received. Here are additional signs that mean your love language centers around gifting:
- You feel loved when somebody gives you a souvenir from their trip.
- You treasure the time and effort that someone has put into the gift for you.
- You care about important events like birthdays, anniversaries and holidays, and might feel a little sad if your partner doesn’t get you a special gift on these occasions.
- You can spot whether the gift someone has gotten for you is a last-minute effort or a thoughtful one, and the difference matters to you a lot.
- Small gestures of care, such as when someone brings you coffee without even asking, feel meaningful to you.
- You love surprises.
- You love “just because” gifts.
Talk to Your Partner About Your Love Language
Whether it's buying something special for a friend or family member, or treating yourself to something you’ve been eyeing for a while, nothing makes you feel as happy and fulfilled as giving and receiving gifts does. And because of this, one thing that is especially important is communicating with your partner about any gift-giving needs or desires that you may have.
Talk openly with your partner about how best to incorporate the two of you in this area of your lives together. Let them know what kinds of things really speak to you, whether it be jewelry, home decor items, new gadgets or tech toys, or art supplies - anything is fair game! By consciously keeping communication open around this topic with your partner, you can ensure that both of your needs are being met and that each person in your relationship is feeling supported and loved.
